rite of passage n.
A ritual or ceremony signifying an event in a person's life indicative of a transition from one stage to another, as from adolescence to adulthood.
As a boy crosses the course into
manhood, what will that mean, to be a man? What are his next steps, where will
he go from the lessons that he has learned and will he tutored other boys in
the assistants on converting a boy to man?
These are the questions that I have being inquiring; along with the programs
and outlets that are out there for him. I once read an article from a Jill
Scott in Essences magazine, Jill said, She read, where a boy would leave his
mother to climb a high mountain of jagged sharp edges, struggling heights. Once
the boy climbs up the 2 day journey, there would be village of men to teach the
boy valuable skills, like cooking, cleaning, hunting, reading, writing, as well
as other life skills. Then the boy would then have to climb down the grueling
mountain, to stand in front of his mother and tell her that, “I’m a Man now”.
Even in
the Bible, before Moses died God permitted him to climb up on a very high
mountain called Nebo, and up to one of its highest peaks, called Pisgah. From
this height he looked across the river Jordan and saw the wonderful Land of
Promise on the other side. Now for me, I asked the question, why the mother instead of the father? Where
was that father at? I don’t want you to assume that he wasn’t there, but why
her and not him (fathers, man)? I had to
take a Pause…, disappointed that these matters are still happening now, no
matter what type of journeys climbing the mountain; how do we fix it? So to
understand why the man comes back to the mother from a boy, I get it. I’ve
learned how to cope and mature being raised in a single mother home. Looking at
the huge increase in single mothers raising boys to become a good person and
physical man, but does that make him a man, in the mentally state of a man?
Being that we’re in the new wave
generation were kids are raising kids, What happen to true core values we once held
on to yesterday, those were the same values that made strong for today. Yet we
are seeing that values of yesterday are now the history to the future. We’re
lost and continually losing the connection to our young men of today. There are lots of reasons and lot of excuses
that we’re giving to not be able to stand up for moral reason of becoming a
man. I’m tired of the excuses, to the problem, although, I do wish for your comments
and replies for doable solutions. Knowing that the struggles will not be easy,
but if we push hard and work together we can collect our men back to be strong
and soaring Kings that we are.
I
have recognized an organization that has push forward in giving our young men
hope and direction in their life when it come to rites of passages.
Emerging Leaders Mentorship Program. Website:
http://www.saveourblackboys.com/Traditional-LDSP.html .I feel that this program is needed to open up our young men
to a new path that we never had or once wanted. It starts with being free in
your heart to open someone else heart to an idea. This organization in my
opinion is Standing Up and Showing Out..
Please contact Brian Bulluck, Program Manager 704.607.1117 or bjbull@carolina.rr.com
Enclosing; Men, as we look back on our lives growing up
to become a man. Remember all the challenges and obstacles it took to cross
over the stressful points. These were the forms of rites of passages or other
words the test of you rising above to be man. You didn't have to see it the
passing but you have faith and your sprite that lead you to know the right and
the wrong, that permitted you to become this person of great character. So you
moved on from the threshold of being a boy child to an adult Man. Surpassing the pain and adversities, those
are behind you and not tolerating the sit back to harm your children future.
Take time to reach into your position and authority of power of being a man of
honor and the rites of being a King. You
are more than a conquer.
Dany Eason.
